How long do I need to last?

When it comes to premature ejaculation (PE) the big question on a man's lips is "how long do I need to last?"

The main answer is this. 'The duration of sex varies during any given sexual experience'. Sex can last from a minute to many hours. If you have sex in a public place do you really want to be lasting for an hour? A few minutes is more than enough. Public sex is about danger and excitement. So the primary focus is on these aspects and not the duration of the act. If sex is loving and passionate then you may want to last longer. Again there is no strict timescales. The main issue is satisfaction.

If you satisfy yourself and your partner then time is not important. PE occurs when ejaculation occurs before satisfaction is reached.

The alternative question is 'how long does satisfaction take?'

Again this varies. You may require little stimulation or a lot. Your partner may require a little stimulation or a lot. Participants may have different ideas about what constitutes good sex. Some people like public sex, others in the bedroom. Some like latex or fantasy, and others may like sensuality or tenderness. The key to this area is understanding your own needs and desires and that of your partner. When you understand this, or just the requirements of any given sexual situation, then duration of sex drops down the list of importance.

Of course, if you have PE then you might only last a few seconds and the above becomes decreasingly important. The main point I am trying to get across is that 'time' does not have to be the most important factor. I am trying to change your perception on what constitutes sex and sexual satisfaction.

Pre-conceived sexual duration is a huge problem. In other words if a man believes sex should last 20 minutes but lasts only 10 then he will be dis-satisfied, regardless of his partner's satisfaction. This holds true for any time period one gives himself whether you think sex should last 5 minutes or 5 hours!

Ok, so I understand that sexual duration depends on the situation. But what now?

I will continue this subject under different posts for ease of use and for a simple process for you to take in your own time.

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